Tuesday, November 14, 2006

Get your own countdown at BlingyBlob.com



Monday, October 30, 2006

We regret to inform that Cloudie has just died a most tragic, horrible, painful death.



Monday, October 09, 2006

Hilarion on Relationships & Law of Reflection


"It is always really something *about yourself*, whenever you want something, about someone or any situation, and not actually about the other person or the situation. And from understanding this, when you are then able to identify the deeper love, you then have also manifested for yourself, the opportunity to grow, expand and evolve." -
Hilarion (a personal Hilarion Reading 2006)


"What Relationship, is really about, is recognizing that in the other person, is *you*. When you look at others and their issues, that somehow there is in you, the person who has struggled around these or other issues. Acknowledging this and understanding this, is the greatest lesson in being with other people. You do this in Relationship, when you see that somehow that which is represented, though seemingly outside of you, in the other person, it *is* you. It is a part of your own being, that is what attracts you to that person, that is what you're here to learn, understand, forgive, work with, improve and evolve in yourself." -
Hilarion (Spring Equinox 2006 Channeling)



Saturday, October 07, 2006

Neo Speaking,


Once upon a time, there was a country man who came to the city to earn a living. He soon found a renowned boss in the city and worked for him. Knowing little about the ways of the city folks, he fell in love with a city girl and married her. After the marriage, he continued to work for his boss, but soon started to be absent from work regularly.


His wife was accustomed to doing whatever she wanted. Even though she was now a married woman, she was not loyal and faithful. Instead, she fooled around constantly behind her husband’s back.


Now, his wife had this habit of behaving very humbly towards her husband each time she came home from a secret rendezvous with a boyfriend. She spoke softly, was all demure and gentle, and tried very hard to please her husband. But on other days, when she had done nothing wrong, she was rude and domineering. She yelled at her husband and nagged at him. This drove the man crazy. He was completely confused by how different she behaved from one day to the next.


The countryman was so disturbed that he stayed away from work. And when he stayed at home, he discovered that his wife was unfaithful to him. He was so upset that he missed work for many days.


When he finally showed up, his boss asked: “Young man, you have been away for so long. What happened?” “Sir, my wife is cheating on me. She is as meek as a mouse on days when she did something wrong, but on other days. She is arrogant, domineering, rough and rude. I cannot figure her out. I do not know what to do or where to go for help. That is why I could not turn up for work,” he replied forlornly.


“Young man, do not worry. Rivers can be bathed in by anyone, rich or poor. Highways too are open to all. Generous people build roadside rest houses to gain merit, and anyone can sleep there. Likewise, all are welcome to take water from the village well,” said the wise boss.


“Similarly, there are some women who just cannot stay faithful to one man, and love to have more than one partner. That is just the way some people are. It is hard to understand why they act this way, but why do you get angry about things that you cannot change?”


“Your wife behaves submissively on days when she did wrong, and behaves rudely on days when she has done nothing wrong. That is just the way some people are. So why do you get angry about things that you cannot change?”


Accept her as she is. Treat her in the same understanding and compassionate way, whether she is kind or mean to you. Why do you get angry about things that you cannot change?”


The country man took heed of his boss advice. In time, his wife behavior no longer upset him. The wife, on the other hand, gave up her boyfriends and amended her ways when she realized her wantonness was made public.


************************************************************************************
Are you the country man? Are you the city girl? Or are you the wise boss?


The moral of the story: Compassion and Empathy help relieve one’s suffering.



Friday, October 06, 2006

Saturday, September 30, 2006

The long awaited Smile


As i walked pass the second class,

Her, a beautiful girl caught my eye.

As i cherish my hastened glance,

Her beauty arrested my heart.

As rapid as i saw her sight,

Her senses sense it just as fast.

As eye contact was made at once,

Her radiance smile soon appeared up.

As such beauty astounded me,

Her, i corresponded with a smile.

As galvanising her smile is,

Her eyes, too, were wonders.

As slowly as i continues to walk away,

Her splendid visions begans to drift away.

As this memoir is unforgettable,

Her beauty is, extraordinary.






Friday, September 22, 2006

Dr. Phil's Ten Life Laws


Life Law #1: You either get it or you don't.
Strategy: Become one of those who gets it.


It's easy to tell these people apart. Those who "get it" understand how things work and have a strategy to create the results they want. Those who don't are stumbling along looking puzzled, and can be found complaining that they never seem to get a break.


You must do what it takes to accumulate enough knowledge to "get it." You need to operate with the information and skills that are necessary to win. Be prepared, tune in, find out how the game is played and play by the rules.


In designing a strategy and getting the information you need — about yourself, people you encounter, or situations — be careful from whom you accept input. Wrong thinking and misinformation can seal your fate before you even begin.


Life Law #2: You create your own experience.
Strategy: Acknowledge and accept accountability for your life. Understand your role in creating results.


You cannot dodge responsibility for how and why your life is the way it is. If you don't like your job, you are accountable. If you are overweight, you are accountable. If you are not happy, you are accountable. You are creating the situations you are in and the emotions that flow from those situations.


Don't play the role of victim, or use past events to build excuses. It guarantees you no progress, no healing, and no victory. You will never fix a problem by blaming someone else. Whether the cards you've been dealt are good or bad, you're in charge of yourself now.


Every choice you make — including the thoughts you think — has consequences. When you choose the behavior or thought, you choose the consequences. If you choose to stay with a destructive partner, then you choose the consequences of pain and suffering. If you choose thoughts contaminated with anger and bitterness, then you will create an experience of alienation and hostility. When you start choosing the right behavior and thoughts — which will take a lot of discipline — you'll get the right consequences.


Life Law #3: People do what works.
Strategy: Identify the payoffs that drive your behavior and that of others.


Even the most destructive behaviors have a payoff. If you did not perceive the behavior in question to generate some value to you, you would not do it. If you want to stop behaving in a certain way, you've got to stop "paying yourself off" for doing it.


Find and control the payoffs, because you can't stop a behavior until you recognize what you are gaining from it. Payoffs can be as simple as money gained by going to work to psychological payoffs of acceptance, approval, praise, love or companionship. It is possible that you are feeding off unhealthy, addictive and imprisoning payoffs, such as self-punishment or distorted self-importance.


Be alert to the possibility that your behavior is controlled by fear of rejection. It's easier not to change. Try something new or put yourself on the line. Also consider if your need for immediate gratification creates an appetite for a small payoff now rather than a large payoff later.


Life Law #4: You cannot change what you do not acknowledge.
Strategy: Get real with yourself about life and everybody in it. Be truthful about what isn't working in your life. Stop making excuses and start making results.


If you're unwilling or unable to identify and consciously acknowledge your negative behaviors, characteristics or life patterns, then you will not change them. (In fact, they will only grow worse and become more entrenched in your life.) You've got to face it to replace it.


Acknowledgment means slapping yourself in the face with the brutal reality, admitting that you are getting payoffs for what you are doing, and giving yourself a no-kidding, bottom-line truthful confrontation. You cannot afford the luxury of lies, denial or defensiveness.


Where are you now? If you hope to have a winning life strategy, you have to be honest about where your life is right now. Your life is not too bad to fix and it's not too late to fix it. But be honest about what needs fixing. If you lie to yourself about any dimension of your life, an otherwise sound strategy will be compromised.


Life Law #5: Life rewards action.
Strategy: Make careful decisions and then pull the trigger. Learn that the world couldn't care less about thoughts without actions.


Talk is cheap. It's what you do that determines the script of your life. Translate your insights, understandings and awareness into purposeful, meaningful, constructive actions. They are of no value until then. Measure yourself and others based on results — not intentions or words.


Use any pain you have to propel you out of the situation you are in and to get you where you want to be. The same pain that burdens you now could be turned to your advantage. It may be the very motivation you need to change your life.


Decide that you are worth the risk of taking action, and that your dreams are not to be sold out. Know that putting yourself at risk may be scary, but it will be worth it. You must leave behind the comfortable and familiar if you are to move onward and upward.


Life Law #6: There is no reality, only perception.
Strategy: Identify the filters through which you view the world. Acknowledge your history without being controlled by it.


You know and experience this world only through the perceptions that you create. You have the ability to choose how you perceive any event in your life, and you exercise this power of choice in every circumstance, every day of your life. No matter what the situation, you choose your reaction, assigning meaning and value to an event.


We all view the world through individual filters, which influence the interpretations we give events, how we respond, and how we are responded to. Be aware of the factors that influence the way you see the world, so you can compensate for them and react against them. If you continue to view the world through a filter created by past events, then you are allowing your past to control and dictate both your present and your future.


Filters are made up of fixed beliefs, negative ideas that have become entrenched in your thinking. They are dangerous because if you treat them as fact, you will not seek, receive or process new information, which undermines your plans for change. If you "shake up" your belief system by challenging these views and testing their validity, the freshness of your perspective can be startling.


Life Law #7: Life is managed; it is not cured.
Strategy: Learn to take charge of your life and hold on. This is a long ride, and you are the driver every single day.You are a life manager, and your objective is to actively manage your life in a way that generates high-quality results.


You are your own most important resource for making your life work. Success is a moving target that must be tracked and continually pursued.


Effective life management means you need to require more of yourself in your grooming, self-control, emotional management, interaction with others, work performance, dealing with fear, and in every other category you can think of. You must approach this task with the most intense commitment, direction and urgency you can muster.


The key to managing your life is to have a strategy. If you have a clear-cut plan, and the courage, commitment and energy to execute that strategy, you can flourish. If you don't have a plan, you'll be a stepping stone for those who do. You can also help yourself as a life manager if you manage your expectations. If you don't require much of yourself, your life will be of poor quality. If you have unrealistic standards, then you are adding to your difficulties.


Life Law #8: We teach people how to treat us.
Strategy: Own, rather than complain about, how people treat you. Learn to renegotiate your relationships to have what you want.


You either teach people to treat you with dignity and respect, or you don't. This means you are partly responsible for the mistreatment that you get at the hands of someone else. You shape others' behavior when you teach them what they can get away with and what they cannot.


If the people in your life treat you in an undesirable way, figure out what you are doing to reinforce, elicit or allow that treatment. Identify the payoffs you may be giving someone in response to any negative behavior. For example, when people are aggressive, bossy or controlling — and then get their way — you have rewarded them for unacceptable behavior.


Because you are accountable, you can declare the relationship "reopened for negotiation" at any time you choose, and for as long as you choose. Even a pattern of relating that is 30 years old can be redefined. Before you reopen the negotiation, you must commit to do so from a position of strength and power, not fear and self-doubt.


Life Law #9: There is power in forgiveness.
Strategy: Open your eyes to what anger and resentment are doing to you. Take your power back from those who have hurt you.


Hate, anger and resentment are destructive, eating away at the heart and soul of the person who carries them. They are absolutely incompatible with your own peace, joy and relaxation. Ugly emotions change who you are and contaminate every relationship you have. They can also take a physical toll on your body, including sleep disturbance, headaches, back spasms, and even heart attacks.


Forgiveness sets you free from the bonds of hatred, anger and resentment. The only way to rise above the negatives of a relationship in which you were hurt is to take the moral high ground, and forgive the person who hurt you.


Forgiveness is not about another person who has transgressed against you; it is about you. Forgiveness is about doing whatever it takes to preserve the power to create your own emotional state. It is a gift to yourself and it frees you. You don't have to have the other person's cooperation, and they do not have to be sorry or admit the error of their ways. Do it for yourself.


Life Law #10: You have to name it before you can claim it.
Strategy: Get clear about what you want and take your turn.


Not knowing what you want — from your major life goals to your day-to-day desires — is not OK. The most you'll ever get is what you ask for. If you don't even know what it is that you want, then you can't even ask for it. You also won't even know if you get there!


By being specific in defining your goal, the choices you make along the way will be more goal-directed. You will recognize which behaviors and choices support your goals — and which do not. You will know when you are heading toward your goal, and when you are off track.


Be bold enough to reach for what will truly fill you up, without being unrealistic. Once you have the strength and resolve enough to believe that you deserve what it is that you want, then and only then will you be bold enough to step up and claim it. Remember that if you don't, someone else will.